“I felt entitled,” Woods said in the clip.
In both cases, Elmore said, it was not skills holding the stars back. He told the students that people can continue to build on their skills, but generally trouble comes because of character.
According to Elmore, there are four ingredients of character: Self-discipline, emotional security, core values and personal identity.
Character was just the first part of Elmore’s discussion on how students can tap into their innate strengths to become leaders. Next, he talked about rivers and floods. The goal is to master becoming a river, he said.
“You can do anything, but you can’t do everything,” he explained.
IBM is a good example, according to Elmore, who explained how the company actually started losing millions of dollars once it started making more and more products.
“You would think more products would equal more money,” he said. “In fact, it was the complete opposite.”
Elmore said the company was a master of its one product and lost its identity when it became too big. He said the company has since refocused and is doing better.
“When many of you go off to college you will be attempted to sign up for lots of things. You will want to do everything, but I advise you not to do that. You need to focus and choose your river," Elmore said.
“You actually get more done if you are a river, not a flood. What you focus on expands. If your focus becomes deep, you will be amazed at what you can do,” he added.
The next topic of discussion was thermostats verses thermometers. Both deal with temperature, Elmore said, but one just tells what it is, while the other sets it.
The Growing Leaders president challenged all the students to be the thermostats in the room — to set the tone, not follow or be influenced by others.