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This Wonderful Life

October 8, 2009

This Wonderful Life: A Posey by any other name...


One day in second grade, I took it upon myself to change my name, and started signing my papers ``Pinky Tuscadero.’’ Mrs. Mc- Nair called my parents at home to express concern. I’m sure I’m not the only girl who has done something similar. The notion of changing your name is like a grand game of dress-up. I knew what it was like to be Lisa, and I could only imagine the possibilities of what would happen if I took my Lisa-ness and overlayed something else.

Toni would add a sassy tomboyish strength. Farrah would add a mysterious allure. Kiki was fresh and fearless.

And now I have my own daughters. Bee has never brought up the idea of changing her name. Perhaps it hasn’t yet occurred to her, or perhaps she is just practical. Perhaps she feels perfectly at home in her name.

For Posey’s part, she seems deeply comfortable with her name. Yet she also possesses a ferocious imagination, which means that she can see clearly the possibility of adding something else, trying on new personalities and being someone completely new.

The essence of Posey is funny and strong and fearless. I can see why she might want to add a dash of Rose with all its whimsy and lace and antique silver teapots.

As a matter of fact, I don’t mind getting a little bit of that myself. Elizabeth Trever Buchinger goes by her full name. You can connect with her at www.moremindfulfamily.

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